Wednesday, January 24, 2007
Any Ideas?
Okay…I could use some help. My friend, Wendy is moving out of her mom’s house into an apartment by herself. She’s never lived on her own and she doesn’t have anything she needs. So, I told her that I would like to throw her an “Apartment Warming”. She mentioned to another friend (who I know) that I was going to throw her the party. So, the other friend emailed me and asked if she could help. I really don’t mind, but she is trying to change all of my plans and ideas. I wanted Wendy to either register for the things she needs or at least make a list with colors and themes. Her friend wants to throw an “Around the Clock” party. She says you give each person a time of day and tell them to get Wendy something that she would need to use at that particular time. I think this is a dumb idea. What do you all think? If you were told to buy someone something to use at 1:00pm, what would you get? I’m afraid she isn’t going to get the things she needs or she is going to get a bunch of random things that don’t go together. Out of all the wedding gifts that I got that weren’t on my registry I think only 2 or 3 of them I actually use. The rest have been stored in the closet. Do any of you have any ideas? I really don’t want her to get a bunch of junk that she doesn’t need.
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Just take charge really nicely! Email the friend back & kind of talk around the subject & push it away. Like, "Hey, thanks for wanting to help! I think people would be confused by the around the clock idea, but thanks for tossing it out there! I'm actually going to help Wendy with registering a couple places, probably Target & Linens & Things, maybe you could take her on one of those trips? Food will be another issue, of course, & if you're willing to help with some preparation, that'd be awesome!"
You will very nicely establish yourself as the one in charge of the party, & she will (unless she's a giant butt) comply & take the real position of helper.
Hope that helps! I obviously don't know the people involved, so maybe my idea wouldn't work. But thought I'd throw it in the hat. :o)
definitely register!!!
I've never heard of "around the clock" and if I were Wendy I wouldn't know what to tell the friend for each hour or time of day.
Thanks for your input…both of you. If you know me...you know I'm really bossy, so you’re probably wondering why this is a problem. Well…I’m really trying to be nice about it. But, EVERYTIME I respond to her she has a “better idea”. I did tell her that I think Wendy just needs to register. That way she will get what she needs and wants. She didn’t say anything about that. She still has some other ideas that I don’t really like, but I’m trying to give a bit. We’ll see how this plays out.
I don’t think I’ve ever been to a house warming before. Do you have any ideas of things I need to do? I was thinking about asking everyone to bring a recipe or maybe a pantry item like…flour or sugar.
I've been to one and we had to bring a recipe. That is a cool idea. Pantry items and laundry/cleaning products are a big hit in Craig.
I got another email from Wendy's friend. I hope I didn't make her feel bad. Here is what she said...
hey - why don't you let me know what you want to do - and I'll help... we don't have to do around the clock and we certainly don't have to do it at my house - it was just an idea.
I love to plan a party - and I've done a lot of showers - I'm happy to do whatever you need me to do. okay? I can plan the menu and carry it out - wherever - at your house, my house - at Wendy's apartment - anywhere pretty much... if thats what you'd like for me to do... Or... I can help you plan this part as far as the where and when... but I don't want to step on your toes, because this was your idea. okay?
Beth -
Yah! i would definately have her register or make a list! I like you being newly married really appreciated getting gifts that I could actually use....
your friend will REALLY appreciate you being so thoughtful! don't worry about offending the other girl - it is your idea and party. just thank her nicely but that you are going to go with your original idea...i know i know! i hate the thought of offending people! you will be fine :)
Monica, it looks like I stole some of your friends:)...j/k
Thank you, Sherry! It seems like it will work out. Scott told me to let her friend do the food. That helps me and it isn't something I really care about. Plus, that way I am including her. I got Wendy to register, so that's good!
I agree she should register and I like what Danna said. Just take charge in a nice way and it was your idea in the beginning so you should make say how the party is going to go! Good luck!
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Ha, my friends are so smart and SO helpful! You are more than welcome to share them :)
I totally agree....stick to your guns and your ideas. Yours are more useful and helpful. I think that is a fantastic idea for her to register. I also like the idea of bringing an unwrapped household item. My mom did that for my wedding shower. I loved it. You can never get enough toweling or kitchen spray :) You can have a basket on the gift table for them to put those items in.
Beth, you are a very outspoken person and you most definetly are not afraid to speak your mind SOOOOO do it lol!!!!
o yea!!! i got a new account cuz hehe iforgot my passowrd
Ack! Her email makes me feel like she read your blog, haha!
She sounds like she realized she got a little help-happy, & it looks like everything's set for how you want it now, so that's awesome!
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